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Don't be upset if your bparents are not searching for you -- it does not mean they don't care. My daugher sought me out and we reunited December 20, 2003. I was not searching because I did not know that I could. When I placed my daughter for adoption I was told I could never search for her -- that my rights ended when she was placed. The laws changed but I'm not sure I would have searched had I known. The reason -- I would not have wanted to interfere in her life. She may not have wanted to know who I was, may not have known she was adopted -- there were too many circumstances that were unknown. I guess in my mind I placed her into the hands of her parents and my right to know ended when I made that decision.
Not searching for her didn't mean I didn't think about her, that I didn't love her. I thought about her for 20 years. I wondered if she had a good life, prayed she was raised by a loving family and prayed that she was healthy. I thought about her on her birthday and other major milestones in her life. She was never forgotten.
You are taking a brave step. I have told my daughter that I consider her the bravest person I know for reaching out to me. Good luck with your search.
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