[FL_GirlByProxy]

Unbelievable.......

First, please, most importantly, Gaylene, I hope that you have found the therapy suggested here, and confirmed the identity of your birthmom. That advice is sound, to say the least. My own recommendation would be to turn to your faith along with us here, for comfort. I have been reading "The Purpose Driven Life" with a few of the women here, and that book directly addresses how we got here. The book stresses that there are no mistakes, that God has chosen 2 people with the correct DNA, and willed, for his purpose, for you to be here in existence on earth. I like the book, you may want to check it out as I think it can really be flexible with regard to your faith.

Secondly, I am appalled by Robin1's comment. A bio mom is never just an egg donor. Who knows what this woman has been going through. Indeed, Gaylene's bio mom's anger is misplaced, and I pray that someday she can resolve it. We cannot assume that she made a mistake, what in the world does that mean? From the bio mom's reaction, I read into Gaylene's post that the bio mom did not make a choice, did not have control, over becoming pregnant. I just do not understand your comment, Robin1, to me it is extremely insensitive, gives no comfort and solves nothing.

Gaylene, I hope you have had a good life, and a loving amom and family. If your bio mom can resolve her anger and shock, I hope that she and you and your family can find some peace. You and your family are in my prayers.