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Attachment disorders are typically caused by traumatic things that happen to the child. Such as being removed numerous times from caregivers that the child has successfully attached to (as is all too common in foster care). Also, having an abusive/neglective caregiver can lead to attachment disorders. It is not something infants are typically born with (although there is some research that points to prenatal substance exposure increasing the risk of attachment disorders). I really wouldn't worry about a newborn being able to attach to you. I too am a big fan of "attachment parenting". You might want to research Dr. Sears (I don't agree with EVERYTHING, but like him overall). We brought our dd home at the age of 10 days, and have to agree with Julie, that she was almost immediately more attached to me than to her bmother. Who knows what it really does to remove infants from their bmother, but as long as that infant is well cared for, they should be okay. I've heard several adoptee's say that they have always felt "insecure", which may be due to the fact that they were adopted, but that is not an attachment disorder. Sometimes I feel insecure, and I wasn't adopted (as far as I know). My dh's aunt's husband adopted three children before he married her. She took me aside when she learned that we were adopting and tried to "prepare" me for the "difficulties" of raising adopted children. I just took it with a grain of salt. All kids will have their own issues and the potential to be "difficult," adopted or biological. My dd just walked in the room, when she saw me she got a big smile and said "Mama". No attachment problems here!
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