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The bmom
While I agree with all that has been posted on this thread, I must say that it sounds like the bmom, a victim of incest, may have never had counseling for what happened. Perhaps she didn't have a choice about giving birth, since abortion might have not been a viable alternative back then.
Don't be so quick to judge the bmom's outburst of pain and misdirected anger. She may have buried this pain deep down, and perhaps was encouraged to put it all in the past. Then suddenly it's right there again, the WHOLE painful episode in the form of a bchild.
One thing adoptees don't realize is that THIS is an outcome than can occur as a result of their search. At the very least, all adoptees and bmoms NEED some kind of therapy to deal with the trauma of reunions. Not everyone responds happily to being found, whether adoptee or bparent. Lives are sometimes torn apart, and then all are just left hanging.
There SHOULD be some kind of required therapy BEFORE either bparent or adoptee pounces on the person they found through a search -- for the sake of BOTH parties.
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