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Short Changed
Colleen,
I totally agree! Birth Siblings get the short end of that stick too. We had no part of any of this and we often get rejected too. We can cut off our noses to spite our faces and it will never replace the years we lost of bonding either. I wanted siblings my entire life, and now I have them, but nothing can give me those valuable years of being young with them and learning about them or how to solve a problem with them as kids. Those years were forever taken away from us at no fault of mine or theres. So adoptees aren't the only ones that have a right to be a little upset. As a sibling, of 2 adoptees that I have been reunited with only to find out that they both have substance abuse problems, I am upset because maybe had I been there all along, as a sister. I could have done something to stop it, protect them from it, prevent it, or advice them against it . I love my sisters both of them, despite there flaws, I can't have this around my children but they both know how to reach me 24/7 and that I love them. Until they are willing to get help there is really nothing more I can do but pray for them, because I have tried everything else.
If you don't think for one minute I am more than a little upset that you say that adoptees are the only ones that have a right to be upset your wrong.
ANYONE THAT STANDS A CHANCE OF GETTING HURT OR HAS BEEN HURT HAS A RIGHT TO GET OR BE UPSET!
Just my 2 cents
God Bless and Good Luck,
Terri
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