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how does your daughter know it's her?
Wow. I can understand how you'd feel nervous and threatened - I'm an adoptee, not a birthparent, and I'm 29, not 16 and I think my aparents would STILL be freaked out about me being in contact with my b-mom. Aislin is right - 16 is a hard age to deal with this. She needs another 10 years, IMO. But what's started is started...
that said, my first thought when I read your post was that your daughter *thinks* she found her birthmom - how did the circumstances play out? Did she see an older person, camp counselor etc, that looks like her or was it more than that? I know (even now I must admit) I had fantasies about every blue-eyed freckled 30 year old I saw at that age.
Just a thought, that it may be less than it is. If it is her real bioparent, she should have contacted you first. Keep us posted, my thoughts are with you.
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You've got to do your own growing, no matter how tall your grandfather was.- Irish Proverb
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