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Old 08-12-2004, 02:09 PM
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WestCoatBmom,

No, you should not feel guilty for not regretting your decision. It's wonderful that you can be at peace with your decision.

As for angry adoptees.... you said, Who says your life would've been better if you had stayed in your family of orgin?

Valid point... no adoptee can know for certain which life "would have been" better. I wonder, though, if some of the anger (or hurt) you have seen from some adoptees comes partially from feeling rejected, or having unanswered questions, or just feeling lonely/different from other people. (Not that all adoptees feel this way.) ? Perhaps it's these things that cause their hurt/anger/frustration more than a desire to have stayed w/ their original family?

I guess I'm just saying that you don't need to feel so judged....

There are also many well-adjusted adoptees out there who do not feel animosity towards their bparents for relinquishing.