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Hi ANN!
It's me again....the one with some very strong feelings on this issue!!
You mentioned that your Bdad was abusive. And since he had your brother and sisters shortly after you, do you think he was abusive with them also? Chances are.....he surely was. Now, an abusive parent (and the spouse) will try to "make up" for the abuse by spoiling their children....by giving them things that they don't need, or don't deservce, or just shouldn't have... but yet the abuse continues at the same time. Maybe these kids can't GIVE love because they didn't GET love. BUT.....there comes an age where there should be no excuse for this kind of behavior. They KNOW that shutting you out is wrong....but they continue....because they don't want to sacrifice the little bit of the dad that they have/love. So they are still doing the "spoiled kid" routine. Have you tried contact again recently? Let me know. Please. This may sound really harsh, Ann.....but there truly are people out there ( whether they are related to you or not ), that DO NOT deserve more than a couple of chances. I sure hope I'm not hurting your feelings by saying this about your Bdad....but it sounds to me like you are just a little bit too sweet to get drudged up in what may be a not healthy relationship. As badly as we all want that, sometimes it is not good for us. Please let us know what is happening, K?
Simone
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