[Just Julie]

Some of you may be aware of my story which I'd be happy to summarize if necessary. At this point I am wondering how a father knows or how does it feel for him to bond with an older or teen adopted child. My husband says he does not feel the emotional connection with our former foster son, now 20 whom we met at age 17, that he feels with our bio sons, ages 23-33. He admits that he enjoys being with him very much, he really is the perfect child, and finally signs the odd email or letter "Love, Dad", but somehow the lack of history with him must be a problem. I bonded with this young man right away and he with me. I love him and am as committed to him as I am to our bio sons, so it is difficult for me to understand how my husband feels. We are committed to being his parents forever, but this may be one of the issues that is holding up applying for legal adoption. Can any of you, especially fathers, help me understand? Many thanks.