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Hi,
I think most people don't understand the need for adoptees to find their biological family. They feel that we should just be grateful we were adopted in the first place and leave the entire subject alone.
My adoptive mom was happy that I waited until my adoptive dad died before I searched for my family. She said that he would have been hurt by the whole process.
I tried to make my adoptive mom see my point of view. She grew up knowing where she came from and her family's history. I did not. And even though I have found my biological family, they haven't wanted to give my any information medical or otherwise. I have found part of my puzzled but their are still large holes in my life.
My husband tries to understand, but I think in the long run he doesn't want to see me hurt.
Ann
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