I apologize if I sounded harsh in my previous post. I didn't mean to offend... maybe just debate a little and offer the other side.....
Anyway, let me clarify something. I have two biological children and one adopted child. My biological children are older (teenagers). They attend sleepovers and have their friends sleepover at our house. So, I'm not against sleepovers. That wasn't my point. I probably wasn't clear. I'm not overly protective (well, maybe sometimes) and I very much agree that children should experience the world as they grow. I do tend to prefer for my children to have their friends over to our house as opposed to them going there. Our door (and refrigerator) is always open. But I also realize there is value in sleepovers for them.
My response was more due to the fact that we are discussing children from foster care. Almost all children from foster care will have some attachment problems (I didn't say they all have attachment disorders, but problems). Therefore, I feel that they should be in their own homes as much as possible and with their own families as much as possible. I don't think you can err on the side of promoting too much attachment with these children.
Yes, my daughter has RAD (along with a myriad of other issues). And I realize this makes her different and I have to treat her in a different way.
Truce??????
