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I don't believe in love at first sight and I didn't have an "instant" bond with the tiny headshot I got with my referral.
We adopted from India and didn't get a video until months after we accepted the referral (it was shot by a parent picking up her daughter). I noticed she had big eyes and big ears. We read the medical report and sent it to an IA doctor who didn't tell us anything major to worry about. It was fairly clinical.
I was emotional--I mean this was going to be our baby--but I didn't feel a bond or a connection to THIS baby above all other babies. Even with later pictures, while reassured that she was growing normally, I didn't feel a connection.
It took a while to fall in love. I loved the idea of my daughter, but it took a while for me to fall in love with the reality (just like falling in love with DH!).
Today, I'm in awe that we have been given the opportunity to raise this wonderful, delightful little girl. I must have been really good in a past life to get this reward!
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