[Dobby]

Our son fit our requirements - less than 12 months, low risk health-wise. When we first saw a picture, we thought he was cute and would definitely "fit" in our family (I don't know why we thought that - but we did). We talked to an IA doctor, and when she said he was one of the healthier children she had seen recently, we accepted. Like jimpol, we liked him enough to go meet him, thinking that we could always decline it then if something wasn't right. But in the back of our minds, as the days went by before our trip, we just knew. The more we looked at his picture, thought about holding him, and talking about him - we knew that no matter what medical issues came up, we would deal with them.
I suppose you could call that instant bonding. It was so easy for us, I was surprised to hear from our sw later that approx. 50% of the couples she works with turn down their first referral.