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Great point on expectations - don't try to "picture" your child if you plan to get info prior to travel. It only makes things harder. This was a problem for hubby. He was picturing a blonde haired, blue eyed little girl...don't ask me why :-) Anyway, our daughter doesn't have either.
We did not have an instant "bond" with our daughter. We had to be fairly business like in evaluating her information and take a big leap of faith. Basically, it came down to...we can picture this child in our family, she is in the age we wanted and the doctors gave her a low - moderate risk factor. Let's go meet her and see! I have to say that we fell in love with her within 5 minutes of seeing her...not to say I still had my doubts...those continued throughout trip 1, the 3 months in between trips and until we saw her again on trip 2. Then, we finally started feeling like this is definitely the one for us :-)
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