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I'm Sorry your going through this
gaylene,
I am Soooo Sorry your going through all of this, your birth mom handled the entire situation wrong. I am sure this has been one huge nightmare for you from start to finish. I have read quite a few of your posts. You have a very loving husband take support in that and you have lived your life for 44 years with out her and you can live another 44 years without her. Don't let all of this news destroy you. Your a good person with a big heart otherwise you wouldn't have spent 22 years searching. I am so sorry it turned out like this for you. But If it was any other person inflicting this kind of pain on your life you would throw them out of your life , just look at her even though she is your B-mom as any other person as any other person and close that door back up. You don't need or deserve that kind of pain. Otherwise it will eat you alive and your far to good of a person for this. I know this is easier said than done but let it go and enjoy what you do have, a loving husband and a loving family in front of you. Take comfront and love in what you do have and just be happy with that. I know it hurts and nothing can hurt worse.
I have a sister that was given up for adoption that I was reunited with that had a substance abuse problem and worse did it in front of my children but behind my back. It hurt to turn my back on her but I had no choice. If it had been any other person I would have done the same thing regardless of sister or not. It still hurts but I look at all the love I have in front of me, my husband and kids and friends and thats enough. Who needs extra hurt in there life from anyone regardless of who they are!
Hugs and God Bless
Terri
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