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I agree with Diane S.... it is her baby.... as an adoptive mom, I know that watching the birthmom hold her baby can be very scarry.... all the "what if's" begin to run through your mind.... what if she changes her mind? It is a very hard situation and uncomfortable for you, but will let her have closure.... not only do I feel (IMO) that she should be able to hold it, she should probably have some alone time to say her good-bye's if she chooses to do either or both. I have been in that situation, and it gave me TOTAL peace. I KNOW that my son's birthmother WANTED me to have him... she wasn't coerced in any way and made the dicision on what was best for him. How could I take him if I knew she didn't really want to do it? Let her have the opportunity... even though it's VERY hard... do what you know is right in your heart, not what your family says they think is best.... Would you have wanted to send one of your girls off without a good-bye? I bet you dont even do it now ..... :-)
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