[chickenrunshrek]

We adopted our nephew's daughter. Although it was the best thing we've ever done, it has changed our family dynamic forever. I was always like a big brother to my nephew, and now he is a stranger. He was actually afraid to tell us when his current girlfriend became pregnant. Relations with my sister in law, the bio grandmother, are also at times difficult. The hardest obstacle that we continue to face is that we are still not recognized as "parents' by some members of the family. It is as though we are just babysitting or foser parenting. If you have the love to offer this child, pursue this adoption with wild abandon. But no that nothing in your family will ever be quite the same. But it is absolutly worth dealing with the difficulties.

Good luck!