[sugarbabysmommy]

I agree with others about your writing to her and sending a few pics. Correspondence between the two of you could really benefit your child in the future, in ways you may not realize now, maybe even helping him with closure when he's older. Opening a dialogue right now about her with M would help you evaluate his readiness or interest, plus he'll know it's ok to talk with you. From some children I've known I have learned that they have a very hard time expressing to their aparents curious thoughts about, or even warm feelings toward, their birthfamilies for fear of upsetting the balance at home. Let him know it's ok to say he cares, if he does care.

A piece of advise I got from a conference really stuck with me. Whatever you do send to his birthmother, keep copies for your son. That way he'll know you tried to reach out when she reached out. I can understand waiting showing him the letter, but if he asks if she ever made contact before you've shown it, be honest.

all the best...