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Nana C wrote:

I wish everyone would sit back and imagine what kind of reception a father would get if he marched into an adoption agency and wanted to make an adoption plan for his unborn child, when the mother really wanted to parent. I'm never sure why it is so different when it is the other way around, as it so often is. I know there are alot of loser expectant fathers, but there are loser expectant mothers too, and last I heard, no one thought it was right that these fathers try to arrange an adoption in spite of the fact that the mother didn't want to.


I think society tends to side with the placing woman rather than the biological father because of the biological fact that a woman has a lot more involvement in creating a child than a man does. Sure, they gave equally of their DNA, but she is carrying the child inside of her and has a far greater physical and emotional involvement in the pregnancy than he does.

A woman's greater involvement in pregnancy is even legally recognized in cases of abortion. If a woman wants to have an abortion, but her husband/boyfriend/partner does not want the abortion to proceed, he cannot legally stop her from ending the pregnancy, even if he is willing and able to parent the child.