[michellemartin]

You're right, the father shouldnt ever have to meet with either the agency or the family if he doesnt want to, and especially if he plans to parent the child. I guess I was coming from a different perspective. I would hope, though, that if a pacouple meets with a pbcouple and one of the 2 dont seem happy with the adoption, to step back and let them work it out. In the case of dead beat dads (or dead beat moms for that matter) who wont be around to lend any support to their child, and just dont want to sign because they want the woman/ family/ anyone but them or a pacouple to raise the child... Now thats a different story. There is a girl in my area- a few yrs younger than me and the bfather of hers will be in jail for at least 4 more years, he wont sign. What's he going to do? Have the baby room in with him till he gets out?