Hi Jill. It sounds as though the phone conversation went well; I love that he said his favorite food is vegetables!
How great that he will attend school where dad teaches. Generally, if approved by the committee, the move can occur very quickly (if you are ready.)
Just wanted to clarify something about group homes, if you do not mind. I have been a Director of privately run, state and federally funded homes for many years with people with developmental disabilities and Axis I diagnoses. Depending on the state, they can be awesome programs with excellent and well trained staff, consistent and individual programs (including OT, PT, Speech and recreation therapy). While living in a group home can be really hard for young kids who have few or no disabilities, they are the ideal residential living arrangement for adults with autism and MR. It gives them the opportunity to live fairly independently, work, spend time with their friends, care for their own homes with minimal assistance and supervision. I know it is annoying for the staff to refuse to answer your questions, but as a supervisor, I would give them commendation for respecting and maintaining consumer confidentiality at all times.
Wishing you much luck in the coming weeks.