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"Parenting the Hurt Child" is authored by Keck and Kupecky. It's written sort of as an addendum to their "Adopting the Hurt Child" book that's already on your list. What other types of books would you be looking for? Just anything relating to older child adoption, attachment, potential issues?
The photo album idea is a good one, I've seen several adoptive parents do that with good results. You may want to include pictures of the neighborhood, neighbor's kids his age, school he would attend, room that'll be his that he can decorate, any church he might attend with you, etc - things he'll be naturally curious about.
In my opinion, wait on the T-shirts. You don't want to insult him if he really thinks his things are fine the way they are, and you don't want to create an expectation that you'll bring gifts all the time. A second visit would probably be fine for a clothing gift - you might have a better idea of what would be needed or the type of logo he'd like best. Might be worth it to ask what he has in his closet and if those are the kind of clothes he likes to wear. Since you have to meet in a city that's strange to both of you, perhaps your second visit could include a shopping trip to round out things he needs to have in his wardrobe. (But I'll make a sentimental exception to this - if you can get him an item that will help him keep thinking about his new town and new family, go for it. A t-shirt or hat with your town name on it, or something the town is known for, or a logo shirt from the local high school or nearby college town - anything like that might help his transition thinking instead of just being a material gift.)
I wish you luck, you've got to be so excited!
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