[Liepolds]

Agency Etiquette Question...
I have an etiquette question. When we first started the adoption process I called many agencies and felt comfortable with one agency. Even before our first meeting she thought their could be a possible match and asked if I could put together a Lifebook and birthmother letter. We felt this was strange, but we were excited so I put the stuff together and honestly, I did not know what the heck I was doing! Well trying to keep this short, the b/m did choose us. We felt pressured from the start and after about a week with doing more research, we decided we not only did not like the b/m situation, we were not comfortable with the agent either. She made us feel very secondary and my gut just told me it was not right. When I called to say we decided to not go with this match, I pretty much said I was uncomfortable with the agency too.

Do you think I owed the old agency a call when we went with a different agency? We never gave her any money, or even really signed anything to start the homestudy. Infact, I was working on the application. Well, I did not call her figuring she would sort of know I was not happy with the situation because of our last phone call. She called me yesterday and was very rude. When I told her that we decided to go with the Agency my brother went through because this women already new our family history and we just decided to go a different way, she then asked me who the agency was, and I was taken aback by her grouph question so I told her and she pretty much said oh fine and bye! And she hung up the phone.

Am I missing something? Did I somehow do a "adoption taboo" I am not aware of? Also, do you think she will contact my new agency? I e-mailed the agency to let them know about the conversation and how uncomfortable it made me.

Please I am really looking for some input!

Thanks in advance,
Kim