Hello!
I am super new to this adoption thing. So I thought i'd come in and introduce myself and give you my story. Maybe someone has some solid advice to give me on how to procede with everything.
I am 31 yrs old and have been married for 9.5 years with no children. I have PCOS so I can't have any bio-children. When I was going through the tramas of my illness I was trying to get pregnant (6 yrs). After tons of pregnancy tests and negative results I told my husband to have a vasectomy because it hurt too much to see the negative sign on the tester kit. After his operation I had to have a DNC and oblation of my uterus, sinching the deal for any hope for bio-kids.
On the top of all this health stuff, my husband is a really scared type of guy. He has always felt like he would be a horible father so he has consistantly avoided this topic and said he doesn't want them. Well when he gets around our neices and nephews you can see that he would be a good father. Plus kids love him. I had been trying to stuff my feeling of becoming a mother so that I wouldn't bother his own feelings but they sort of came out a couple of days ago and I just let him have the whole truth about it tears and all. He then told me that I needed to take it into my own hands and make it happen. He doesn't want to have a say in it because his fears will take over and he'll try to stop it.
Do we sound like a weird couple? I think we'll make a good family some day, but I want to give him some more time to let the idea sink in. But since i'm already 32 I don't want to get much older before we adopt a child. I figure that we could try to shoot for 35 or so.
How long does the whole process take? And when do you think we should get the ball rolling? Do you think we could still get approved to be a Mommy and Daddy?
I know this is alot of info so please bear with me. I'm excited and scared all at the same time so I kind of just barf out whats bothering me and sometimes it's quite a bit more than just one thing.
Thank you for your help!