[hprestonalexand]

this is so awsome! Honestly I would do whatever you could do to be REAL and make him comfortable. I would say to stay away from the Mr. and Mrs. unless he chooses to use them and go with first names until he is comfortable with Mom and Dad. I know you may want badly to be called Mom and Dad or it may not matter but this child has a mind of his own and may not be comfortable with it. I would just take it day by day and see how he is, let him know he can call you what he wants. I can see dh playing the roll of buddy v/s dad also and you might not be able to stop that. Maybe just constant reminders to dh to remember that dad is not always best friend, even though this young man may need a good friend. I don't know what the lines are there. Are you seeking therapy or counseling, you might want to look into that. This seems like it will be wonderful for you, dh, and your soon to be son, but it probably will have its ups and downs. I wish you luck, and I am proud of you. I think this is just grate!