[bromanchik]

Anger is a part of grieving. Maybe you are just now being able to grieve all that was lost when your daughter was taken from you. You lost not only your daughter, but a piece of your parents. The people that were supposed to protect and support you, didn't. Anger, recognising you have a right to it, is the first step. Forgiveness is the second. The step between them is the longest and the hardest. Give yourself time.

My philosophy has always been "Got a problem, read a book". Two books come to mind"

The Angry Book by Theodore I. Rubin - Very good at explaining anger and how to deal with it.

and

The Art of Forgiving: When You Need to Forgive and Don't Know How
by Lewis B. Smedes - Excellent, excellent, excellent. Two thumbs and two big toes up!