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When our 1st daughter was born 3 years ago, we were at the hospital but in the waiting room. The birthmom was allowed to have two people in the delivery room with her, and she had her
mom and the birthfather. We saw/held our daughter when she
was about 30 minutes old. When the birthmom was back in her room, I had a nursery bracelet and so did she. The staff was
wonderful to us and to the birthmom. They new about the adoption plan, and the birthmom was allowed to have a 2 person room without a roomie so that her mom or friend could spend the night with her. We would generally stay at the hospital until about 11pm and then go back to the hotel.
When our 2nd daughter was born 7 months ago, we weren't able to get there in time (both daughers were born in other states) since she got to the hospital late and delivered very fast.
We got there later that day.
The birthmom told me she wanted me in the delivery room with her, but it just didn't happen. Her mom was there with her.
The birthmom held onto her baby the whole time she was in the hospital - taking advantage of every minute she had with her.
A totally different scenario than our 1st daughter where the birthmom would ask me if she could hold the baby. Again, the hospital staff was wonderful to us. In this case, however, the birthmom had the baby released to her from the hospital because we were doing a private/independent adoption and she and her mom didn't want all the "system" involved with social workers, etc. So even though everyone knew it was an adoption situation, it was all off the record as far as the hospital was concerned, but we still got all the goodies and the diaper bag!
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