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lmh5 wrote..I can't get her back, I can't have those years back, and I can't change what happened. I know all this. But it doesn't change my anger.
I think its about how unfair this is.. How we did not get to make the decision.. If one makes a life changing decision one learns how to deal with that life changing decision.. How to process it because there are no traps in it..
But this?? No way.. The resentments keep getting in the way of our really understanding about the acceptance of what we can not change..
Its the first emotion in a long line of other ones.. We never look at the other ones because this here anger and resentment sits on top. IMO (<In my opinion)
I think the work at hand is to deal with the resentment first.. Maybe zero in on that.. They did not respect your judgment.. Or heck you may (any birthmom) have just given up and let them decide.. But its a loss of power.. I believe its about taking our power back..
And that's an inside job..
That's about healing ourselves.. journaling.. therapy..groups.. writing about it on the internet.. etc etc..
Jackie
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