thesearchguru: Thank you for posting the link to your article/story. I think it would be a great article for an adoptee to share with their aparents. A much more positive approach than stating that the search and reunion has nothing to do with aparents, IMO.
dpen6 & shirleyville:
"My premise is that the aparents are deserving of the same understanding, patience and time."
"Right or wrong......perceived or real......fear is an awful feeling and as adults, we should at least take that into consideration and react as we would want others to react to US when we are afraid.
Very well said! Absolutely agree with you both!
love4: I have followed your story for over a year and just can't comprehend how an adoptee can behave in the manner that your daughter did ~ and how her biological family can condone that behavior. What a heartbreak! How wonderful that in spite of this painful experience you still plan to help your younger daughter search for her bioParents.
Adoptive parents are not all the same ~ just as adoptees and biological parents are not all the same.
All three sides of the triad are deserving of consideration, patience and time.