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A/parents having FEARS about a search for b/parents is normal. When those fears extend to the point of "I don't want you to do it", THAT'S whats SELFISH and MEAN-SPIRITED because they are saying they can't share you.
You will have so many of your own emotions to deal with in your search and reunion, it would be so unfair on yourself and the whole experience for you and your b/parent(s) to also have to be looking after others with high needs.
Sometimes reassurance is all the a/parents want and need. For others it is not enough ..... and it's not the time for you to be acting therapist.
The searchguru is right, don't involve people in your search who are unsupportive of the search and reunion.
Look after yourself at this time, nothing should spoil it for you, it is a very special time!
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