[love4]

adoptive moms who struggle with reunions are not mean or selfish people. It is easy to say they are mean and selfish but you have not felt what they feel. It's easy when their kids are young to have such confidence that a reunion is something you will help your children with. There are not any adoptive moms here in reunion to tell you what it is like. Would their feelings be acknowleged and understood if they spoke of them here on the forum? Looking underneath what seems to be selfishness you may find fear. You may find such a deep love for their child and many insecurities. They just may not know how to express those fears and insecurities. They are not mean and selfish. love4