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Wow
Look, I think all parents have a "What have I done" moment when they first bring a child (bio or adopted) home. But responsible people, even if they're sick and exhausted, soldier on--because it's the right thing to do, because it's for the child's good, and when things get really horrible, because it would be too embarassing to admit you weren't up to the task.
My word, people throw themselves in front of runaway cars, run into burning buildings, give kidneys to save their child and you guys couldn't handle a little illness and exhaustion. The fact is, under stress, you panicked and cracked. Ok, so now you know what you're not made of--but you want to do it again? What has changed in your essential characters that would make anyone think you could handle a child, the life of another human being again? You got counseling, but this is a moral, a character issue, not a psychological issue. When the going got tough, you looked out for yourselves.
I'm sorry, but I think any agency would be crazy to work with you without real evidence of long term changes that prove that you can put aside your comfort, health, etc. for the sake of a child. Joining the Peace Corps or working with orphans in India might be a start.
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