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Gina- I completely disagree with you! I'm sorry...yes, it is absolutely...well, emotional suicide to place a baby...I did it. My daughter is 9 months old today...but she is not with me here...she's in someone else's arms.
I can understand how some people think it would be easier to use the "classic" (or should I say archaic) adoption style where birthmom gives birth and the baby is whisked away to never be seen again.
It is better for baby and mommy to have a bonding time. A "hello and goodbye" time. Memories are the sustainers of a birthmom. If I didn't have the experiences I had in the hospital with my daughter I'm convinced I would not have survived this long. Bonding with her kept me alive...and I'm convinced it made her first few days better too.
Saying goodbye is the most awful thing in the world to a birthmom...but beginning that relationship that you will pick up someday down the road-near or far-is something that every mother should do. You can't get that time back.
AnnMace2004- Abortion isn't the child's fault. Think of it this way. It's like being sentanced to death because your mother broke the law. Every child is unique and a product of the two that brought him or her together mixed in with enviornment, parenting style and a million other variables that contribute to this one special completely unique person with a character and spirit all his own.
Being the "mother of evil" is not the case. That isn't what is happening. You are the mother of a baby...that's what it is. I consider my daughter's birthfather to be the absolute most evil person I've met...but I look at my daughter and see only beauty, only grace, only innocence. The way she is brought up will have a profound impact on the rest of her life...and I took drastic steps to ensure that she is brought up infinately better than her birthfather was so she'll have the chance to succeed.
The fact is, choices affect other people but they are not hereditary. Choosing to be gay is not something you can find in your genes (for example). Choosing to be bad or good is a choice that each person has to make in their lives and their parents have the oppertunity to steer them in the right direction.
Abortion is the "easy way out" to a lot of women out there. Some women do not believe that killing an unborn baby is wrong for whatever reason...I beg to differ and I believe that if we could ask the children-they would too.
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