[FatBirdy]

I am a reunited adoptee and I wanted to share with you that my reunion has broken down with my bmom - a lot of it due to her husbands reaction to me. He says I have a mom (amom) so I don't need her. He NEVER talks about me with her or the kids that they had together. I hear that he is usually a very easy going guy but with this situation has become very controlling. I don't know why though?? I am nearly 30 and live thousands of miles away. I am not moving in, heck, I will never spend an Xmas with them - but he has played the divorse card over this situation. What a jerk. He also knew before they were married that bmom had an adopted out baby. I gather he admitted to bmom that he is embarassed that he is married to a woman that gave her baby away - but I think his reaction and actions are FAR MORE embarassing. Again, what a jerk.