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Old 07-01-2004, 08:45 AM
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Hi guys, thank you....

Each one of you has a little bit of a different perspective which is nice to hear, but we all kind of agree on the same issue which is also nice. I know it is tough for anyone in the adoption triad, but for the adoptee it is just terrible. We all just want to know our heritage (atleast), I know I want to know who I got my eye color from, if I am Italian or German, and I do just want a simple answere to why she gave me up. Maybe she was forced, maybe she didn't have support or couldn't afford a child, whatever reason I want to hear it. So maybe there just is no simple answere.
Sara, obviously this frustrates you also. Having a genetic disease to whitch you have questions about but cannot get any answeres, I am so tired of this. If you have suspicians that any info on your birth certificate was changed, I would follow your gut, you might be right, back in the day they did change allot of info about adoptees. I agree with you, I know that we should have the right to know where we came from.
l-thompson, I do worry sometimes about how I will feel if I ever do make contact. It almost terrefies me now and it didn't used to. I did feel kind of silly seeing a therapist about this at first. But this therapist has done so much research about all of the areas of adoption and she is really good. Not allot of therapits are as knowedgable in this area. BTW, I am so happy that you found your mom and dad and brothers and sister, hearing this gives me hope.
Snuffie, I really hope that all my stuff just falls into place, but I am preparing myself that this might not happen. I will try and read the Hummingbird. I don't know if my state has an adoption record search agency, but I will surely look into this. Oregon does offer some kind of an assited search, but it costs around $400. so maybe someday.
lml, thank you, thank you to all of you for understanding my anger issues. lml, I wish you luck in your situation. Thanks for your support.
You have all been a big help, I just love this site. Take care all
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