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I think it is awful that our society is still this way, where people make racist coment and have such negative attitude but we must live in this society. It is unrealistic to think that we are not going to be around our family or neighboors, for most of us, they are our support systems, emergency sitters, etc.
I know someone that is interested in foster program and she told me that her next door neighboor ( who had small children) uses the "n" word, how can she possible bring a aa child into her home. SHe doesn't have to leave the child with the neighboor but this child may turn into a adoptive child and this is not a positive enviroment to bring a child in.
In her case she is thinking that she may only accept cc placement, even if it means a much longer wait.
In my case I would not want my bio child to look so different from my adoptive child that, they will be made fun of or point them out when they are out together, like "Look the girl is theirs but the boy is adopted, see how he looks different than them." that is my bigest fear. That the child would feel bad and not have a positive self image. Society is cruel and kids .....forget it.
This is such a personal sensitive subject. We will never come to an agree on it. Everyone should take placements that they are comfortable with
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