Dad,
We had never heard it called co-sleeping or the family bed until we read it in a book called Dr. Sears Baby book. He advocates a style of attachment parenting that sounds very much like what I read here on the attachment boards. However, he advocates this for all newborns, not specifically adopted children, though he and his wife have had children join there families by birth and by adoption.
Having children sleep in cribs in a seperate room is a fairly new concept (last couple of hundred years) and is generally only practiced in Westernized cultures. Hilary's sister is married to a Japanese man, and the currently live in Japan. I'm not even sure they make or sell cribs in Japan!
It is assumed that the child will stay with their parents. Some of it is for the practical side of ease of breast feeding, but mostly for the comfort, attachment and bonding of the children to their parents. The theory is that we are there for our children throughout the day, to comfort and love and hold, then why should we expect them to be on there own at night in the dark?
I say, what ever works best works best!
and don't worry, I won't tell DSS!
