Hi everyone! I'm Angela. I have one daughter who will be 7 in August. We had her less than a year after getting married, and it was a piece of cake. Since then we have had infertility and miscarriages. We started looking into adoption a few years ago. We have gone through some small heartbreaks (a "friend" offering her baby and then cutting off contact and getting an abortion instead, and another telling us that she was going to give us the baby and then changing her mind).
Just so you know, it will be a private adoption through our attorney. We have been thinking about networking and sending out a birthmother letter but we hadn't.
I got a call yesterday from a woman who said, "I hear you're looking to adopt a baby". Yes..... "Well, I am pregnant, and I am a single mom who has a 6 month old, and I would like you to take this new baby. I just can't care for it." Then she went on to tell me the baby will be "dark" which I told her we dont' care. Apparently she heard about us from the women who said she was going to give us her baby and then changed her mind. This potential birth mother kept saying she's POSITIVE.... and even said she was told not to call us unless she's sure because we've had so much baby heartache.
So to make a long story short(er),
we are meeting her and the birth father this evening. I have a short list of questions to ask.... though the question I most want answered is ARE YOU SURE>>?????? LOL!
What questions would you ask her if it was you?
Oh, by the way, we are both caucasion (I don't know the proper abbreviation). This baby would be 1/2 Sudanese (father is an immigrant from Sudan), 1/4 native american and 1/4 AA.
Okay, I'm so excited I couldn't sleep last night.
Hubby tells me to build a wall around my heart so I won't be so sad if it doesn't work out but I say if you build a wall, then you can't feel the good either.
Thanks so much, and it is so nice to meet you!
Angela