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Originally Posted By Precious

I am going through this process with my husband, as he is adopting my daughter. i was not previously married, but bio father did have his name on the birth certificate. We have filed and have a court date, but I did have to notify him. Even though he has not seen or contacted, nor paid support, for well over a year, he still has the right to be notified. As he is going to be selffish, he plans on protesting. I have been told he does not have much of a leg to stand on, but if we did not allow him to fight it, he could have come years from now and argued that the adoption took place without his knowledge, and if he can prove it, the adoption would not be held up. So, be careful how you apporach this. I did not want to have to deal with him, but if I do it now, when he hasnt been there for the past four years (except sporadically), I do not have to deal with him at all in the future.
The biggest downfall, aside from having to see him again and put my daughter through all of this, is that if he knows about it and wants to contest it (with or without a leg to stand on) the price went up dramatically, which did happen.

Thats my experience...