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i am so sorry. while i cant relate to friends not showing up to a baby shower... i can relate in a way because i had 4 people out of about 20 invited show up to my bridal shower. also, for my wedding.. we had invited 300... 150 replied saying they would be coming and about 50 showed up. it really made me sad and in a way embarrassed. but you know what made me feel better? thinking about this:
the people who came are the people you know really care about you. now you know who you can count on. not saying that the people who didnt show up are bad people, but youll just know in the future not to expect much out of them.
would you rather have 20 people at your shower and none of them really care about you, or have 3 people show up and you know that they all care about you? i think id choose the latter.
with adoption showers, many people may feel awkward because some still have the old view that adoption is somehow a "second choice" or that we who choose to adopt are doing so because we are so desperate to have a child and that if we could choose, we would choose to have bio children only. they may feel awkward around you and not know what to say or how to act.
thats no excuse, but it might give you some insight.
again... im sorry your feelings were hurt.. but try to look at the positives in all of this. (((((hugs)))))
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~Krista~
**Age of 11 -- decided I wanted to adopt one day**
**March 2001 -- started trying to conceive with darling hubby**
**May 2004 -- after over 3 years, decided to take a break from fertility treatments**
**June 13, 2004-- realized that God was calling us to adopt now... not "someday" ...but now! what a feeling of peace! **
**June 14, 2004-- called Kentucky State adoptions office and asked them to send us information**
**June 16, 2004-- sent out letters telling our families of our intent to adopt. EEK! **
**Currently working with a social worker who is pushing foster-adopt on us. we havent decided what we want to do yet. **
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