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I truley feel for you as i know what you are going through. Dh and I have custody of my 3 nieces and have had since R was 2. She is now 14. We took custody of them before dcs got involved. I must tell you that there have been some very intense moments. A lot of what you are talking about now. My sister is selfish among many things. She tried to use her kids as pawns in her own little games, not caring how it affected them. Their bfather isn't any better. It's been hard at times dealing with my sister, but i've never regretted taking my babies. As much as i've tried to protect them it only takes one conversation with mom to undo things. Their mom was in drug treat for the last 2 years. I supported her efforts. She had weekly visits with kids unsupervised. They loved it. In April of last year sis moved in with us, 2 months later she got her own place. the girls moved in with her for the summer, dh was against it, but i felt that they had to see for themselves. A month later i went back to get them because she had started back using, and verbally abusing my babies. I've since found out that she was also playing with their minds.
I've said all that to say this: kids love their mothers no matter what, and they don't know what is good for them. Children can't stand up for themselfs so it takes us to do it for them. I will not leave no rock unturned when it comes to my babies. Since then i have them in therpy and believe it or not it has really helped them. I've also learned that things are differant when you are dealing with family members opposed to strangers, and because of this you have to look at things from a differant angle, becaus we are so close to the situation it's hard to be unbiased. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Would i do it again? You bet. In a heartbeat. Because in the end i know that they will have had a life full of love, laughter, and all the things children dream of. That in itself keeps me moving hard as it is sometimes, but worth it in the end. Good luck
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