I am thrilled you understand! It is very very difficult to find any that do understand. I am treated like an alien most of the time
I'm very leery of the abuse carrying on in her. I don't know if she would do anything to a younger sibling. I know she tried when she first came home, but that was the only incident. That is why we couldn't have sleepovers, etc.
Her biggest hurdle now, is the lies! Lying about everything! For no reason. Always stretches the truth. She will come down in blue socks, I say hmmm I thought I left red socks for you. No, no they were blue.......anything to say something opposite! Every situation changes. She tells a story totally opposite of how it happened.
I have emailed the principal over things she has told me teachers say and do...........and it never happened.
We keep struggling. I commend those that adopt babies and international that they never have to go through what we do adopting an abused child. I just don't understand how people can abuse these children in the first place!
Do you know how many times I have said to DH........"I can't do this anymore?" Somewhere I find the strength and do it all over the next day. So many times I wanted to call t he social worker and tell her to come get her.
But as with a birth child.........you can't give them up.