Well, if this is any solace to you, we've adopted seven times now....and four of the kids have been infants. Apparently 'some' birthmothers prefer a family with more children.....or we certainly wouldn't have been having this many children, huh???
It just boils down to what the birthparents want.....and that's it. Frankly, I honestly believe that overall.....more birth parents want families who have children already......than being the first one. It seems important, a lot of times, that their child has sibs and a support system right from the start.
Just my two-cents......
Sincerely,
Linny