[HappyMomAnna]

If you are doing a domestic infant adoption then it really does boil down to the 'choice' of the mother placing her baby..... The aganecy may have some affect if they have a large number of second time parents and only a few mothers interested in placing their baby as the second child then it will take longer for the agency to help second time parents....

In domestic infant adoption the agencies can do less to help the adoptive families because it is all the choice of the mother placing. I guess the big question I would ask is How many adoptive families are looking for additional children....this might give you an idea of how many families any given mother would be looking at for placement..... If there are a lot of second time parents then the wait would be longer since most mothers placing do like their babies to be the ONLY one placed.

It is difficult to know why a mother selects a family but is seems to be logically natuaral that a mother would be more inclined to choose a family with no children over a family with children and It seems logical that a mother would be somewhat concerned that her baby would have a sibling who was the biological child of the adoptive parents...After all the mother who chooses to place will want the best for the child she places and some people will naturally assume that parents might treat a biological child differently then an adopted child....

When the mother makes the choice the adoptive families need to consider the psychology of the mother placing--the agency can do little to change what a mother has already decided in her own mind.