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I know that our agency has a lot of women come in saying that they want childless couples, but ultimately end up picking a family with at least one child. In fact, most of the placements that they did last year were with couple who have children. Every woman is looking for something different, and there are lots that definitely prefer their child to have a sibling. The experiences that our social workers have encountered show that the things that seem important when beginning to select a couple don't always appear that way in the end. There are certain things that are just who you are, and those things might turn off one birthmother while another may be attracted by them. We have been shown several times and have not been picked, much to the consternation of our families. I will admit that it does give you a bit of a complex, thinking "what is wrong with us". I often roll my eyes when I say it, but I honestly know that when it is right it will happen. There will be something there, and it may be something little that you never thought of, that will result in you being "picked". It could be a similar love of music or cooking or similar childhood experiences. It WILL happen, and when it does all the waiting and worrying will seem inconsequential.
Good luck! Remember, it will happen!
Carmen
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