[waitingfor#2]

HI!

We are in the process of trying to adopt a second child. Our first is bio via in vitro and after a few attempts at that again we decided to go adoption. We are a year into the wait and hearing (in the last 3-4 months) that our wait will be longer because many of the birth moms our agency is working with want the child they place to be a first child. This is the first time we are hearing this and it has kind of thrown us back a bit.

Our agency's placement rate is great and their average wait has been 8-10 months (even for those with kids we are told) but now all of a sudden the are saying 12-18 months and I know they have at least 10 other couples with one child that are waiting.

I am just trying to gather some feedback from others. Is this true with other agencies, are you hearing the same things? Do you get feedback from your agencies/attorneys as to how they are approaching this.

We didn't get any red flags or concerns when we signed up with our agency that we would be harder to place because we already have a child. So, now that we are past their "average" mark we are starting to get a little concerned.

Any feedback or thoughts would be appreciated!

thanks