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I am a bmom and my bf didnt want to place. We've been living together for 2 years and dating a total of about 4. He was very aware I never wanted a second child. I told him I was pg and 2 seconds later said she's not ours (I just knew it was a she) Did he try to change my mind? yes, but I knew it wasnt how things were supposed to be and remained very firm in my decision, to the point of saying if you want her then I will give her to you and I will no longer be with you. I know this is a very harsh thing to say to the man I plan to be with forever, but his history ( 8 yr old he sees 3 times a year and a 4 yr old he met only once) and our current circumstances were not ideal. He signed the papers before her birth, much to my relief and to the aparents relief. Even though I knew he could still change his mind before the court date I knew if he signed in the first place he would stick to it. I was very scared he would not sign. His emotions have been rougher than mine, but I was expecting that. I would be concerned also that the bfather will get her to change her mind, just like my boyfriend tried. Hopefully she will be the stronger one and do what is best for the child she carries.
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