[texasmom-to-be]

We have been matched with a wonderful birthmom, but we're a bit concerned about the birthfather. He originally called our agency about adoption a few months ago, but when they would only agree to pay for verified expenses, he got mad and said he would go elsewhere. Now, while the birthfather is "indisposed", the birthmom has called the agency back and told them she is moving forward regardless of what he thinks.

We really like the birthmom a lot and feel we're building a good rapport, but I'm worried about what will happen when birthdad comes back home at the end of the month and finds out she's reinstated their adoption plans.

There's a part of me that's really excited about being matched, but then another part says CAUTION because of the birthfather's previous conversations with the agency. We are kind of emotionally preparing ourselves for this to possibly not work out, although there are a number of reasons we'd really like it to.

Has anyone worked with a birthcouple where the bmom wanted to place but the bdad was hesistant? What about bdads who make financial demands outside the adoption plan?