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If he's doing this much manipulation that you know about, imagine what your missing. Trust issues are what leads to manipulation, but trust cannot be gained if the manipulation is allowed. M needs to be held accountable and it is important that your girls see this happenning or it will create a negative effect with them. Also, if they feel you aren't listenning, they become at risk for the boy's manipulation. I took a teen in at 17 that I love dearly. He was very helpful and appeared loving, but he was very skilled at working the system. My younger boys looked up to him and that has posed a problem. While M's understanding of love is different then your girls, he needs to be held accountable. If , at 18, he is to be treeted as an adult, that means work/school on time and at least a small amout of rent. It teaches him responsibility and to have some pride in what he's done right.
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