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M helps out around the house, most of the time without being asked. He has a job and also receives money from the state (independent living). He does not contribute financially toward room and board (we have not asked).
We plan on asking for help with monthly expenses. This was not established with him when we first thought about taking him into our home. My husband was his DCF caseworker and we could not take money from him because the department was concerned about a conflict of interest. My husband is no longer working for DCF so the conflict of interest no longer exists.
Since we did not establish this in the beginning, it is going to be very difficult to ask for room and board. However, because of our financial situation and my recent unemployment, it is necessary. I have to tell our own children "we can't afford it" and M is spending his money on PlayStation, games, cell phone, candy, etc.
I agree that we probably need a third party involved and I plan to seek some help in this matter asap. I really do want things to work because we sincerely care about this young man. I just feel lost as to how to get things on track.
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